What does a healthy relationship between parents and adult children look like?

Did you know that you will spend more time with your kids as adults than when they were under your roof?

As parents of four adult children we really want to get this right so in this week's episode of An Intentional Marriage Podcast (Parenting Principles - Part 3) we talk about what it takes to have a healthy relationship with your adult children.

If we could boil down the essence of our conversation into one phrase for parents to remember it would be, "remember the goal and know your role." When raising kids, our goal is for them to be independent, responsible adults who want to spend time with us. To do so, we have to remember our role changes over time. When they are little, we have total control. Then, as they move into teen years, we assume more of a coaching role but when they become adults, we are promoted to Consultant.

But that's not all we talked about! Our conversation included:

     * Understanding adult kids are separate entities

     * Respect is the foundation 

     * Expectations need to be adjusted 

     * Assertive communication is key

     * Unsolicited advice is often seen as criticism

     * And more!

Whether you are the parent or the adult child, we hope you find something helpful. We know great relationships -between a husband and wife or parents and kids - don't happen overnight, you have to be intentional and together we can make it happen ...one Marriage Minute Monday at a time.